There are things that make life really enjoyable.
Hemming a dress to help a friend out. Feeling the strength of the fabric between my fingers, having to imagine the removal of fabric before it occurs. The strange terror that come when you slash the scissors together for the first time. The ritual that is prepping the sewing machine; sending the thread through a lope, around a knob, down to the bottom, back to the top, hooking it, swinging it around and finally threading the needle. Once the sewing is complete, the moments where lingering threads are snipped and seams are checked.
Making a pot of coffee at 3:30 in the afternoon because it sounds delicious. Discovering that cinnamon in coffee is one of the most revolutionary things in the world. The ability to slowly, deliberately, choose a mug free from the rushed mania of mornings. The luxury of sitting down on the couch and watching the afternoon sun beams dance across the floor.
Opening the fridge pulling out vegetables, chopping them and creating a roasted medley of nutrition. The time before it is cooked, smelling the flavors, watching the transformation into golden, crispy deliciousness.
Taking the time to complete the laundry, working around the machines’ cycles, folding when the clothes are still hot to the touch, putting them away, allowing them to cool in closets or drawers. As Ron Swanson would say, “Whole-assing” the project, so that it doesn’t linger into the days ahead.
Sitting on the couch, painting toes and fingernails a pale pink. Knowing that you were productive. That you lived in the moments of the afternoon. Relished the timing of every task you completed, feeling a profound sense of peace and satisfaction.
Then realizing that for five hours you didn’t speak a word. Sure music played for a portion of that time. Yes, you danced alone around the house as you unloaded the dishwasher. But in a world that barely stops talking, you were quiet. Because quiet is exactly what you need to thrive.
Feeling the space between tasks, thinking of how a dress needs to be hemmed, creating a colorful and flavorful meal and indulging in moments of relaxation is what gives life. The only way that the hurried moments are bearable.
Cultivating space and quiet is how you become you.